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PANDEMIC TAKES TOLL ON RESCUED RACEHORSES AT STANDARDBRED RETIREMENT FOUNDATION AS HORSE SANCTUARY REOPENS Donations, Adopters and Fosters Desperately Needed for Rescued Horses

The Standardbred Retirement Foundation (SRF) has been a safe haven for retired racehorses for 31 years. But the pandemic forced the cancellation of all its fundraisers, along with the closure of its farm sanctuary to adopters. Now open to potential adopters, donations are still desperately needed to feed and care for 343 horses. Adopters are also needed so rescued hors- es have permanent places to live out their lives. “This is still an emergency situation for us,” said Judith Bokman, founder and executive direc- tor of the award-winning, national organization. “The COVID-19 crisis hit in March, and we believed we would have relief from the pandemic by now. Sadly, that is not the case. Our fund- raisers remain canceled and it costs approximately $4,000 a day just feed all of our horses.” Before and After Rescued Racehorses at Standardbred Retirement Foundation's Farm Sanctuary SRF has helped, mostly through rescuing, more than four thousand racehorses from poten- tial slaughter. After rehabilitation, the trotters and pacers are placed in loving homes for life. Many are still young horses that are simply no longer competitive on the track. Some are placed with police units in New York City, Newark, Philadelphia, and Texas Sheriff Depart- ments, others are in therapy programs, and most are now loved as adopted pleasure mounts. “We’ve been an extremely productive organization for many years, but COVID-19 has been devastating,” explained Bokman. “SRF does not receive industry or government grants and we rely greatly on individual donations from people who care about this beautiful and ma- jestic horses.” When injured or no longer competitive, nearly all Standardbred racehorses are sold off the track to dealers in rural communities. They are then resold—either for the price of meat in Canada or Mexico, or as work horses to plow fields, haul heavy logs, clear land, and provide street transportation. The care of many of these working horses is inhumane. When in their teens, these horses are resold at livestock auctions for meat, and replaced by younger ones. SRF is headquartered in Cream Ridge, NJ, but the organization provides care for rescued horses in boarding facilities across the United States, including many in the tri-state area. To make a tax-deductible donation, adopt or foster visit: www.adoptahorse.org, mail to Standardbred Retirement Foundation, P.O. Box 312, Millstone Township, NJ 08535, or call: 609-738-3255. ABOUT STANDARDBRED RETIREMENT FOUNDATION Standardbred Retirement Foundation (SRF) provides humane care and services for horses in need of lifetime homes, and in crises, through rehabilitation, training, adoption, lifelong follow up or life-time sanctuary, and offers therapeutic equine opportunities for children and adults. SRF is a registered 501 (c) (3) organization. For more information, visit: www.adopta- horse.org, or call: 609-738-3255.

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Why Veterans Are Well-Suited to Become Business Owners And the Lessons You Can Learn from Them By: Robert Irvine Entrepreneurship isn’t for everyone. The average worker bee might complain about their lousy boss or the inefficiency of their company and muse on how much better things would be if they were in charge, but the fact is few people have the rare combination of energy, guts, and determination to actually go out and create a business of their own. In short: most people would rather deal with a situation they hate than do what’s necessary to become their own boss. I understand why. I’ve been my own boss for many years now, but the path to get here wasn’t easy. For one thing, when I was starting out, I didn’t know how to write a business plan. For another, managing a civilian staff is a far cry frommanaging other servicemen and women who must explicitly follow orders. And of course, when you’re cooking on a military base or on a Navy warship, you’re the only game in town. In the civilian world, folks who don’t like your restaurant are welcome to eat elsewhere. Nevertheless, my time in the British Royal Navy taught me plenty of valuable lessons that I was able to take with me into the civil- ian world and spin into a tale of success so broad that, quite honestly, I didn’t see it coming all those years ago. In addition to the three restaurants that bear my name—including one at the Tropicana in Las Vegas and one within the walls of the Pentagon—I have a protein bar and snack company (FitCrunch), a prepared food line (Robert Irvine Foods), a live stage show (Robert Irvine Live), a digital magazine, four published books, plus partnerships in dozens of other exciting projects. None of this would have been possible without three foundational lessons I learned in the military. Anyone who served in any branch of the armed forces is already in possession of these lessons, but the good news for those who didn’t serve is they’re readily available to learn right now. They are: Work backward from the goal

Every soldier, sailor, and Marine approaches each mission with the same question, “What’s the objective?” Once they have the answer to that, they can work backward on how to get there, create a mission plan, and follow it. But all of it starts with using the power of imagination to see a future success that is not yet real. You can do this, too. Begin by visualizing every aspect of what success looks like for you. If you’re creating a brick-and-mortar space, imagine exactly what that looks like. Draw pictures or collect images from magazines or the Internet and cut them out to make a little vision board for yourself. If it’s an online busi- ness, picture your ideal website and how easy it would be to use. Write all this information down and every single morning, look at it. Constant reminders will guide your decision-making toward the desired outcome. And once you have that clear vision in your head, then creating the plans you need to get there become that much easier to do. Today’s self-help experts typically refer to this as manifestation; in the military, it’s simply how you set goals and execute them as a unit.

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Control “mission creep” This is military term used to describe a gradual broadening of the initial objective. For example, a brief security deployment that turns into a long-term com- mitment and requires more than double the manpow- er and resources originally thought. In the restaurant world, this can take the form of a brunch café sud- denly offering dinner or otherwise bloating its menu and costs, and exponentially increasing the amount of inventory it’s required to keep. Outside of the restau- rant world, no business is immune to the pressures of increasing product offerings that fall outside the scope of their expertise. Have the discipline not to impulsive- ly react to this pressure, and only expand the original mission if you have the requisite data—R&D, customer feedback, market studies, and so forth—to back up the decision. When in doubt, remember that businesses that can do one thing exceptionally well often find a permanent place in the hearts of their customers. Expect the unexpected

Adversity awaits every entrepreneur, but it comes in so many varieties that it’s impossible to know exactly what form it will take. Unfortunately, the spe- cific kind you’ll face likely won’t reveal itself until you’re knee-deep in the launch process with tens of thousands of dollars already committed to R&D, breaking ground, or marketing. You may find out that you need to spend a lot more than anticipated to bring your building up to code, change a product’s ingredients or manufacturing process in order to be accepted into a particular retail chain, or lose critical funding at the last minute. As I said, you can’t prepare for the specifics. But maintaining the mindset that something is bound to go sideways allows you to avoid despair and instead greet setbacks with a smile and say, “Ah! There you are. I’ve been expecting you.” Then you can roll up your sleeves and get to work on solving the problem. So much of success comes back to belief. If you have a great idea, are willing to work at it, and believe you’re destined to make it no matter what you encounter, then there’s nothing the world can throw at you to hold you back. In parting, I would wish you good luck, but instead I’ll just remind you that you make your own. And always remember the motto I live by: Nothing is impossible. For information about SBA’s resources for veterans, visit www.sba.gov/veterans.

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New Jersey Hall of Fame Announces Top 50 Nominees for Class of 2019-2020

The New Jersey Hall of Fame (NJHOF) has announced 50 nominees in five categories for its Class of 2019-2020: Arts & Letters, Enterprise, Performing Arts, Public Service, and Sports. Public voting is now underway online at njhalloffame.org/2019-nominee-voting/. Everyone needs a hero, and the accomplishments of Garden State citizens span the pages of nearly every volume of American history. Until now, they have never existed side-by-side, in one place. The people we celebrate have overcome every imaginable obstacle and challenge. They have survived war, over- come the bleakness of poverty, conquered fear and disability and rebounded from untold rejections and failure. Please let your voice be heard and join the Public Vote in choosing this year's heroes- the New Jersey Hall Of Fame Class of 2019-2020 Nominees!

“We have inducted heroes from all walks of life into the New Jersey Hall of Fame,” said Jon F. Hanson, chairman of the NJHOF. “This year’s class of nominees reflect the varied accomplishments and backgrounds that have char- acterized the hall of fame since its formation.” The public is encouraged to visit the NJ Hall of Fame website to cast their vote for a nominee in each of the five categories listed below. Full biographies of the nominees, as well as online voting, can be found at njhalloffame.org/2019-nominee-voting/. The 12th class of inductees will be announced in July, and the virtual induction ceremony will take place in October.

ABOUT THE NJHOF: The Foundation for New Jersey Hall of Fame is a non-profit organization honoring citizens who have made invaluable contributions to society, the State of New Jersey and the world beyond. Since 2008, the NJHOF has host- ed 10 ceremonies for over 140 notable individuals and groups in recognition of their induction into the Hall of Fame. The NJHOF endeavors to present school children with significant and impactful role models to show that they can, and should, strive for excellence. The NJHOF is thankful for the support of its many sponsors, without which none of our endeavors would be possible. For more information, go to www.njhalloffame.org.

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Q: LEADERS IN LEAST INVASIVE PAIN & SPINE PROCEDURES How can Platelet Rich Plasma Treatment Help Shoulder and Knee Pain?

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Platelet Rich Plasma Therapy also referred to as PRP Therapy, is a progressive non-surgical treatment to treat a variety of conditions including arthritis, ten- don injuries, and ligament injuries. PRP is part of a group of state-of-the-art treatments collectively referred to as Regenerative Medicine. PRP treats an injured area naturally using your body’s own growth factors to accelerate healing. It has been shown to be safe and effec- tive for numerous joint and soft tissue injuries. It has been extensively researched in numerous medical journals and publications all over the world. Some of the many uses of Platelet Rich Plasma include osteoarthritis (degenera- tive arthritis) of the spine, knee, shoulder, hip, hands, and feet, as well as menis- cus tears, plantar fasciitis, and rotator cuff tears. The procedure is simple and is performed in the office. The PRP process begins when a small amount of the patient’s blood is removed from the arm and placed into a special container. The blood is then placed into a device called a centri- fuge which spins the blood to help the separate the portion of the blood which becomes concentrated with platelets, thereby giving the procedure its name. These platelets are important because they release growth factors to recruit stem cells and to assist in healing an injured area naturally. Once the PRP is isolated, it is injected to the injured area under the guidance of an ultrasound machine to help accelerate healing and reduce pain.

This healing works on the simple principle that your body is perfectly capable of healing itself. Your blood contains all the essential components that the body produces to repair tissue damage. Each time you have an injury, the platelets in your blood along with growth factors, stem cells, cytokines, and other elements create a scaffolding on the site. The damaged tissues use this framework to regenerate and repair. The entire process takes approximately one hour, and pa- tients are sent home the same day. Patients on average report more than 50% improvement in 6 weeks and up to 100% improvement in 12 weeks. This may eliminate the need for more aggressive and expensive treatment options such as long-term medication or surgery. In a recent study, researchers at Hospital for Special Surgery gave patients with early osteoarthritis an injection of PRP and then monitored them for one year. After one year of the PRP injection, physicians evaluated the knee cartilage with magnetic resonance imaging (MRI). While previous studies have shown that patients with osteoarthritis can lose roughly five percent of knee cartilage per year, the Hospital for Special Surgery investigators found that a large majority of patients in their study had no further cartilage loss. At minimum PRP also prevented further knee deterioration.

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REAL ESTATE Buying or selling a home during a pandemic? Here's what you need to know While the COVID-19 pandemic has delayed real estate transactions across the country, some still need to buy or sell their homes. It's critical to under- stand the pandemic's impacts on real estate, from simply touring a home to the ability to close transactions. "Realtors® across the country have implemented a range of innovative and secure solutions to comply with social distancing directives while still enabling people to buy and sell homes," said NAR President Vince Malta, broker at Malta & Co., Inc., in San Francisco, Calif. "In these difficult times, Realtors® are also more than just service providers. They are engaged community members, committed to building and enhancing the neighborhoods they serve, from checking in on neighbors and friends to offering guidance to their clients." As home buyers and sellers adjust to these extraordinary circumstances, the National Association of Realtors® offers advice on how to navigate this new temporary real estate reality. What buyers need to know • Home tours will look a little different. Where in-person showings are still offered, potential buyers can expect quicker tours and may be asked to take extra precautions such as removing shoes, using hand sanitizer and avoiding touching anything in the home. • Many sellers have offered virtual tours of their homes through pre-recorded videos or live video streams. In fact, according to a recent NAR survey on the pandemic's impact on real estate, three in five Realtors® said they are guiding buyers through virtual home tours. Buyers that decide to go on a virtual tour should ask their Realtor® questions about things that are more difficult to experience and understand through video, such as size (e.g., height of the ceilings or dimensions of rooms) or materials, including the flooring or countertops. • Interest rates are low. Interest rates are at historic lows; however, that could change given the fluidity and uncertainty surrounding COVID-19. As more people file for unemployment, mortgage lenders may tighten lending standards, subsequently driving rates up. Or delayed demand could push rates further down. Potential buyers can prepare for home ownership by understanding their budget, building a good credit history, and getting pre- qualified for a mortgage. Some lenders even allow borrowers to lock in interest rates for limited periods of time - with now being a great time because of the low interest rates. • Don't expect a discount. Nationally, home prices are holding steady, with the majority of home prices the same or higher from one year ago, according to NAR. At the same time, new home listings are down as sellers delay listing their homes. Serious buyers should submit competitive offers, and their Realtors® will advise them on exactly what that looks like for their respective markets. • Expect delays. The entire industry - from lenders to Realtors® to home inspectors to title companies - is adapting to the sudden and unforeseen transition of operating in a nearly contact-free environment. Those terminating a lease should leave some wiggle room, even an extra month or two, between moving out of a rental and into a new home in case of an unexpected delay. Hiring moving crews may prove challenging, so buyers should give them as much notice ahead of their move as possible. What sellers need to know • Sellers face potential challenges, too. Keep an eye out for any expected delays either in the transaction process, such as the ability to get paperwork signed or having appraisers or inspectors onsite due to social distancing rules. • Use tech tools to help market and show your home • At a time when in-person showings may be inadvisable, and even prohibited, there are many digital tools available to continue marketing and showing your home. A Realtor® can help coordinate three-dimensional interactive property scans, virtual tours (either pre-recorded or live), on-demand open houses and virtual staging to showcase your property. If sellers do receive an offer on their home, their Realtor® has the ability to present it to them virtually as well. • Take steps to protect yourself. Buyers have purchased properties "sight unseen" for a variety of reasons long before this pandemic. However, most buyers do not have experience purchasing a property without physically visiting it. Therefore, sellers may want to include language in the purchase agreement that ensures the buyer acknowledges that they are responsible for personal verification, walkthroughs and professional inspections to con- firm that the property meets their needs. • Buyers are still searching. Just because fewer buyers are touring homes in person doesn't mean they've stopped searching for homes. Many are stuck at home, so you can bet they're browsing online more now than ever. Sellers should think twice before they drop their price as nearly three in four Realtors® say sellers have not lowered prices to attract buyers during the pandemic. As potential buyers increasingly browse homes online, having attractive and accurate photos and videos is even more important. Sellers may want to consider using this extra time at home to make updates around their home and take fresh pictures for those starting their search online. More advice for buyers and sellers • As the situation continues to evolve, NAR encourages buyers and sellers to follow CDC guidelines to protect their health and safety. NAR also devel- oped the infographic below with additional advice on how to get the most value out of working with a Realtor®. For more information and resources on buying or selling a home visit www.houselogic.com, and to find a local Realtor® visit www.realtor.com.

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REAL ESTATE Mortgage relief during COVID-19: Here's what you need to know

In these unprecedented times, when many families are facing physical, emotional and financial hardships, a common question is, "How do I keep up with my mortgage when I'm not working?" A home is a family's most important asset. But now it's more than that: It's where they are hunkering down and staying safe. That's why there is a plan for customers to delay monthly payments if they need help. There are a lot of mortgage terms and provisions on TV and in news- papers related to the impact of COVID-19, and in some cases, there is conflicting information. Here are some common questions and answers from Mark O'Donovan, CEO, Chase Home Lending, to help guide you. What's payment assistance or forbearance? That means you won't be expected to make a payment for a period of time. For example, you can start with three months and you won't be charged a late fee, once you tell us you need help and sign up. We'll con-

tact you during the three-month period to make sure you're doing OK, and we won't report the missed payments that come due during the forbearance period to the credit agencies. Before the period ends, we'll be in touch to discuss when you expect you'll be able to start paying again and how to handle the missed payments. If you can't make up the missed payments at the point that you resume making your regular payments, we can likely defer them

to the end of the mortgage term. How do I raise my hand?

At Chase, you can request help without waiting to speak to an agent. Simply start here: www.chase.com/mortgageassistance. You'll be able to log into your account, fill out a short form and enroll in the payment assistance program. You'll avoid waiting on hold - a process that is lengthier right now given the thousands of customers calling with questions. We will email or send you a letter to confirm that you're in the program. Don't worry if you don't get it immediately. It may take a few days, but the payment delays start right away. Can I just stop paying without telling the bank? That's not a good idea. By signing up, you'll get full access to all the program benefits - including delayed payments, no late fees and no negative reporting to the credit bureaus for payments due during the forbearance period. What if I can still pay? Then you should. Keep making your mortgage payments on time if you can. And know that the program is for customers who are suffering financial hardship resulting from COVID-19, so help is still available if your circumstances change as a result of COVID-19. There are also programs to help cus- tomers who suffer financial hardships for other reasons, including natural disasters. What happens after the payment assistance period ends? The national payment assistance program was created to provide immediate help to customers navigating this very uncertain time. If you're still not able to afford your mortgage at the end of the initial three months, you can request delaying payments for additional months at the end of the forbearance period. Many customers who can resume making their full payment after the assistance period can defer missed payments to the end of the mortgage.

We'll check in with you near the end of the assistance period to help you understand your options. While there is so much uncertainty right now, we want to be here for you to help. Stay safe and healthy.

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Call Your Insurance Company First, A Lesson Learned A local resident learned a costly lesson when her neighbor decided to cut down trees on her property without her permission. She lives in a neighborhood of single-family houses in a nearby county with a thick buffer of trees separating her from her neighbors. The rear part of her property, at one time, was over 100 feet of very thick trees. Throughout the years, with her permission, the neighbor was allowed to trim some of the trees. About ten years ago, he hired a tree company who went over and above just trimming. They cut sections out of the trees leaving big gaping holes and taking away most of her privacy. She could see right through to his property and the street he lived on. He swore that he would plant large arborvitaes to reassure her privacy, but he never did. In 2018, she was awakened to the sound of loud cutting and chipping noises. Her neighbor was cutting down most of her trees. She went over and begged him to stop. He was on her property. He yelled back that it was his property and they kept cutting. She called the police four times. They told her it wasn’t illegal to cut down trees. They told her to go to the local municipal building and talk to code enforcement and the shade tree commission where they asked to see her survey; which did not have trees on it, only measurements. With the municipal building and the police failing to help her, she hired a lawyer. The lawyer advised her that she could file the suit herself but she felt she needed representation. What he didn’t tell her was that she might have been able to use her insurance company to help settle this. The first hearing in court was a pretrial to determine if the case was worthy to go to trial. She was unable to attend the pretrial. Her lawyer represented her. The neighbor was charged with two charges. 1. Intentional acts - the court decided her neighbor was guilty of trespassing, vandalism and destruction of property, etc. because she was harmed. Their insurance company refused to represent them. 2. Indemnity - Somehow because she was suing him, the opposite party’s lawyers convinced the judge that he needed to be indemnified and paid for their legal fees by his Insurance Company because he was sued and harmed. She was finally awarded $12,500 and had to pay 4,000 out of her own pocket for her lawyer. The perpetrator that cut the trees down would have his legal fees and the amount awarded to her paid by his insurance company. To date, his insurance company is still in negotiations about whether to pay 11,000 back to him. The point being that if she had been advised by her attorney thoroughly, she would have known that an option would have been that she could have first called her insurance company and let them handle the case, most likely at no cost to her. She found this out after she filed to sue and her insurance company could not represent her because she had hired a lawyer and he became her legal representative. At a Business Association Meeting she found this information out that her insurance company may have covered her. She was advised to call her insurance company first and that they deal with these situations all the time. Unfortunately for her, it was too late and she ended up having to pay for the attorney fees out of her pocket. If something similar happens to you, call your insurance company first!

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KIDS How Having a Sibling with Special Needs Affects Other Kids in the Family

All children require a certain amount of care and nurturing, but that amount can be double or even triple for a child with special needs. One of the biggest worries for many parents is how one child’s disability will affect other kids in the family. Siblings may feel deep love for their brother or sister with a disability and take pride in their role as protector, helper, and advocate. But when it comes down to it they’re still just kids. Kids get mad, throw tantrums and need a great deal of patience, affection – and attention – to thrive. It can be hard for a small child to understand that parents simply cannot provide all of the attention that they want because they’re busy caring for the child with special needs. In our experiences, siblings of kids with special needs become exceptionally compassionate, responsible, and loving people as they grow. But that’s not to say there aren’t challenges. Wonder-filled Youth Children are well known for their sense of wonder, of delight and interest in things that adults simply accept as an everyday part of life. Siblings of a special need’s child are often able to

keep this childlike feeling for much longer than other children, due to their proximity to an individual who experiences these feelings every day. Developmental milestones are always something to be celebrated, and when brothers or sisters are able to participate in helping their sibling achieve they see the true joy of helping and uplifting others. The positive effect throughout their childhood and youth is difficult to put into words, but simply watching these families together shows the deep and enduring bond that is created between siblings. Growing in Compassion Compassion for our fellow man is not something that everyone is born with; it must be nurtured throughout childhood and reinforced throughout our lives. Parents of multiple children find that all of their children exhibit grace, compassion, and patience in greater measures than other children. The ability to see their special needs sibling as someone deserving of love, care and acceptance provide siblings with a compassionate nature that only expands as they grow older to include others with different abilities. The sense of tolerance extends beyond family boundaries to helping others with special needs children, even if it’s only with a smile and a kind word when you see someone who is struggling. A Sense of Independence Children naturally wish to become more independent as they age, but siblings of children with special needs will find a special appreciation for their ability to become independent and place more value on the trait. Their siblings with severe intellectual disabilities, speech or other developmental delays may never know what it means to completely care for themselves and will always be dependent upon others for their care. Siblings that grow up and move away from home will truly realize the freedom that they have is a gift, and one that shouldn’t be taken for granted. That sense of independence becomes even stronger when they see that their special needs family members may never have an opportunity to fall in love, go to college, have a career or travel the world. A Lessened Sense of Self When you are focused on meeting the needs of a special sibling, it can be difficult if not impossible to spend time with your other family members. This can cause loneliness, withdrawal and even cause siblings to feel that their problems or concerns are being marginalized. While this is unlikely to be the case, that still doesn’t change the way it feels to a child. Some children are simply unable to attend special events such as birthday parties or special recitals, causing one parent to stay home while the other attends an event with siblings. Siblings may feel that their small problem, such as a bad day or a bullying incident at school, isn’t important enough to share since their special needs brother or sister requires constant and intensive care. Conversely, siblings may begin to act out in order to get some more attention and time with parents and other authority figures. Overall, there are additional challenges with being the sibling of a special needs child, but there are significant benefits as well. What you must always remember is that a sibling is still a sibling, regardless of their abilities. Your children will let you know when they need additional attention, but it can be helpful to set aside even 10-15 minutes per day to spend with each child. This special time helps them through all the other times that may include some difficulties.

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Millstone TWP Foundation for Educational Excellence Awards $13,080.47* in Grants to Millstone TWP Schools Millstone Township Foundation for Educational Excellence (MTFEE) awarded four grants, $13,080.47, to Millstone Township Schools. All grants will be implemented in the fall. MTFEE is a non-profit organi- zation devoted to funding grants for items that nurture extraordinary educational experiences for every student in the Millstone Township Public Schools and are beyond the scope of the general school budget. Following is a listing of the grant awards and recipients: Breakout Education Program ($2,750.00) (Bernadette Heine, mid- dle school – 6th grade Language Arts) - The grant consists of a Break- out Education program which will bring the Escape Room feel into the classroom, encouraging student collaboration and critical thinking skills in order to achieve a common goal. As a result of using the Break- out Education Program - Students will spend more time collaborating with peers, sharing ideas, and utilizing interpersonal skills supported by this type of program - Students will be able to incorporate move- ment with logic and higher order thinking skills to achieve interdisci- plinary goals set forth by the curriculum standards (Domain 1: Value, Sequence, and Alignment in the Danielson Model) - Students will be able to create learning games utilizing this program to be shared with their peers, which fosters student centered learning. Panariello’s Planters ($1,100.00) (Amanda Panariello; primary school – 2nd grade Special Education/Resource Room) – The grant consists of deepening students’ knowledge on the importance of eat- ing healthy, wellness, science, and mathematics. This Garden Club will teach students the importance of eating healthy, gardening, “farm to table” meals and will enhance their science and math knowledge by learning the life cycle of a plant. This will be a program for all qualifying Pre-K – 8th grade students. Outdoor Classroom ($9239.47) (Karen Gurico & Cheryl Hoffman, primary school teachers) - The grant consists of an outdoor classroom to enhance the educational experiences of all students. The space will consist of a wooden cabana shelter and sustainable outdoor classroom furniture and will provide hands-on outdoor education that will in- crease enthusiasm for learning and teaching. Reading, Literacy & Learning Conference ($TBD) (Patricia Pre- vosti, Special Education Teacher for grades 6th, 7th & 8th grades) - The grant consists of a literacy conferencing focusing on reading and dys- lexia. Since 2002, MTFEE has awarded over to $650,000 to its schools. There are currently more than 65 MTFEE-funded grant programs running in the Millstone Township School district. Every child that matriculates through the school dis- trict will in some way benefit from an MTFEE-funded grant. For more information about donating to MTFEE, becoming a trustee or its fundraising programs and events, please e-mail info@mtfee.org, visit www.mtfee.org and like us on Facebook. *Total does not reflect Reading, Literacy & Learning Conference

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Max's Minute By, Max Druckman

Happy Birthday, USA! This year, the United States of America turns 244! Each year on July 4, our nation celebrates its birthday. On this date 1776, the Founding Fathers signed the Declaration of Independence. From hot dogs to fireworks, beach days to baseball, everyone has their own Independence Day traditions. These cus- toms each have their own unique and interesting origin story and history. Fireworks are perhaps the oldest Independence Day custom. They were supposed to be a mainstay of the holiday before the Declaration was even signed. John Adams, a Founding Father and America’s second president, wrote a letter to his wife, Abigail, on July 3, 1776, that foresaw the signing of the docu- ment being honored with fireworks. The first July 4th firework show was held the very next year in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania. The rest, as they say, is his- tory (literally). Today, there are over 14,000 firework shows each July 4th in the United States. Firework displays are both a timeless and beautiful tradition. Barbecues are one of the best, and certainly the tastiest, parts of Independence Day. The custom of barbecues began in the South in the early 1800s. They usually took place in the center of a town and contained singing, prayers, and a parade. The commemorations also featured toasts in honor of the country, usually 13 in reference to the 13 colonies. Food served at the dinners included goats, pigs, cattle, watermelon, and cucumbers. With the westward expansion of the U.S., bison were added to the Independence Day menu. In the late 1800s and early 1900s, hot dogs and hamburgers became the staples of cookouts. What will you be eating this July 4th? The first Fourth of July parade was held in Bristol, Rhode Island in 1785. The parade is held annually to this day. Parades across the nation evoke the patriotic spirit and often feature floats, bands, and food. There is a spectacular national parade, held in Washington D.C., each year. Make sure to catch your town’s parade! Professional sports are a storied tradition of America’s birthday. The two most prominent competitions going on around July 4th are Major League Base- ball and the Wimbledon Championships of tennis. There have been many iconic baseball moments on Independence Day. In 1939, New York Yankees Hall of Fame first baseman Lou Gehrig gave his famous “Luckiest Man” speech as the Bronx Bombers retired his number 4. Gehrig had retired two weeks prior due to amyotrophic lateral sclerosis (ALS). He was the first player ever in any sport to have his number retired. In 1980, Houston Astros Hall of Fame fireballer Nolan Ryan struck out his milestone 3,000 th batter en route to becoming the all-time strikeout king. Wimbledon has also featured some amaz- ing moments on Independence Day. In 1975, tennis legend Billie Jean King defeated Goolagong Cawley to win her last ever Grand Slam championship in the Wimbledon final. In 1993, all-time great Pete Sampras beat Jim Courier to capture his first Wimbledon victory. So, what are you going to do this Independence Day? Get outside, have some fun, enjoy the nice weather, and spend some time quality with your family! Even in the midst of a pandemic, we can still celebrate our nation’s freedom with our own favorite festive traditions. Happy Birthday, America!

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