The Millstone Times May 2020

♥ HEALTH  &  WELLNESS

Have Yourself A Hug By Lauren Kowlacki

Hugging for 20 seconds a day may reduce your stress. Hugging someone you love or even a coworker, client or colleague for just 20 seconds a day is proven to be very beneficial. A 20-second hug can … • increase levels of oxytocin (the love hormone) • reduce blood pressure and cortisol (the stress hormone) • increase happiness • lower stress • improve relationships and connection During a hug, we release oxytocin, a hormone that relaxes us and lowers anxiety. It's often called the “cuddle hormone.” Harvard health calls it the “universal hormone” so go and give a hug today and every day and add happiness to your day as well as some else’s day.

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cases, narcissists will use control of communication to drive a wedge between the other parties. This can be done by falsely making one of the actors or groups of actors into a scapegoat for problems that the narcis- sist is actually responsible for or that are otherwise unrelated. In addition, the narcissist may falsely credit the other actor with saying or thinking something hurtful, or may put too much emphasis on an aspect of something that was said to them that ignores the wider context. Alternatively, the narcissist may attempt to use triangulation to put a third actor between them and someone with whom they are commonly in conflict. Rather than communicating directly with the actor with whom they are in conflict, the narcissist will send communication supporting his or her case through a third actor in an attempt to make the com- munication more credible. Here are two examples of narcissistic behavior- Will and Anna have been together for a few months. During this time, Will showered Anna with affection, attention, and plenty of gifts. Anna had fallen madly in love with Will, and there was talk of marriage and babies and an amazing future. He told her he loved her, that she was perfect, and that they were meant for each other. For the last month, however, Anna has noticed Will is texting less than he used to, barely answering her questions, and is otherwise being extreme- ly vague. Sometimes his stories change, especially regarding where he has been and whom he was with. He even started blaming her for things that are not her fault. She is aware that Will has a new friend, Lindsay

that he knows through work. Sometimes, Will compares her to Lindsay, and she tells Will it hurts her feelings, but he responds by telling her that she’s jeal- ous and there’s nothing to worry about. Unbeknownst to Anna, Lindsay believes she is in a new relationship with Will. Sometimes he texts Anna in front of Lindsay, but tells Lindsay not to worry about it. In the end, both women are jealous of each other and vie for Will’s attention. Meanwhile, Will gets plenty of attention and drama to fuel his need to control the situation. A mother might unnecessarily bring a third party, another sibling, into a conflict with another of her children. The third party thus becomes the voice for the mother. She does this for control. She wants to control the dialogue with her lies so she can be the victim, thus making one of the siblings, the victimizer. She creates this division so the child she manipulates will do all her bidding and attack the other sibling for her while she keeps her hands clean, for such reasons like, she doesn’t mess up her visits with her grandchildren.

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