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The town was incorporated in February 1844 and consists of 37.36 miles of rolling countryside, although some early settlers took up residence in the area as far back as the early 1600’s. Town Historians Jean E. Mount, Joann Kelty & Doreen Polhemus FULL STORY ON PAGE 11 Millstone Township will soon be celebrating its 175 th Birthday
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The Logic of Logos & CatchphraseS: Last Words By Pam Teel
The last words of those leaving this world have always fascinated people. When famous people die, their last words often go down in history as pearls of wisdom or funny one-liners. Have you ever thought what you would want your last words to be? Here’s a selection of some of the most famous last words ever uttered to inspire you. Bob Marley, musician: Bob Marley's values and beliefs were such that Jamaica's most famous son refused the toe-amputation that might well have saved his life following diagnosis with cancer in 1977 - instead, strict Rastafarian Bob Marley faced up to the inevitable with few complaints or regrets. When his time came, the reggae great summed up his philosophies in a heartfelt bedside message to his musician son Ziggy: "Money can't buy life." Archimedes, mathematician: "Stand away, fellow, from my diagram!"Archimedes was killed during the Second Punic War. According to the historian, Plutarch, a soldier came up to the mathematician and told him to go with him to Marcellus. Archimedes refused to do so
until he finished the problem he was working on. Enraged, the soldier killed him. Karl Marx, philosopher: "Last words are for fools who haven't said enough." Augustus Caesar, first Roman emperor: "I found Rome of clay; I leave it to you of marble. Have I played the part well? Then applaud me as I exit." That is what he report- edly said to his friends who were with him throughout his reign. Leonardo Da Vinci, inventor and painter :"I have offended God and mankind because my work did not reach the quality it should have." Joe DiMaggio, baseball player: "I finally get to see Marilyn." John Adams, second president of the U.S.: "Thomas Jefferson survives." Adams and Thomas Jefferson started out as rivals, but they became friends later in life. As Adams lay on his deathbed, on July 4, he reportedly noted that his former nemesis was still alive. However, Jefferson had actually died some hours earlier; also on July 4. Thomas Edison, inventor and businessman: "It is very beautiful out there." Right before his death, Edison came out of a coma, opened his eyes, and reportedly said the above quote to his wife. He was likely referring to the view outside his window. Ludwig van Beethoven, composer and pianist: There are a variety of reports regarding Beethoven's last words. Some say the composer, who was deaf by the end of his life, said; "I will hear in heaven" while others suggest he said, "Plaudite, amici, comedia finita est" (Applaud, friends, the comedy is finished) But still others say that after a publisher brought the composer 12 bottles of wine, his final words were, "Pity, pity, too late!" Beethoven died in the middle of a thunderstorm on March 26, 1827 after a long illness. Within hours of his death, a Beethoven mythology began to develop. Just two days after his death, souvenir hunters were snipping off locks of his famously wild hair. One lock of that hair eventually reached a laboratory in the States, and it revealed Beethoven had lead poisoning. Marie Antoinette “Pardon me sir. I meant not to do it.” The last words of Marie Antoinette, extravagant wife of Louis XVI of France who, according to rumor, dismissed the starving peasants with a flippant “let them eat cake.” At the height of the French revolution, first Louis, then Marie Antoinette, were charged with treason and sent to the guillotine. After a humiliating ride through the streets of Paris on a cart, she was brought to the guillotine. While on the scaffold, she accidentally stepped on her exe- cutioner’s foot and respectfully apologized to him. Seconds later he chopped off her head. James Donald French “Hey fellas! How about this for a headline for tomorrow’s paper? French Fries!” The last words of James Donald French, a convicted murderer and the last criminal ever to be executed under the death penalty in Oklahoma. After killing a cellmate, he was sentenced to death by electrocution. In the death chamber, he shouted these words to the members of the press, there to witness his execution. Nostradamus: “Tomorrow I shall no longer be here.” Whatever your views on Nostradamus’ powers as a prophet, his last words show he certainly managed to predict his own death. The sixteenth century seer was found dead the morning after uttering these words to his secretary. His visions, called quatrains, contain specific names, dates, places and events as well as symbolism and metaphor, leaving them open to interpretation and the subject of heated debate. On the day of his death, Nostradamus was working on a quatrain about the end of the world. Humphrey Bogart: “I should have never switched from Scotch to Martinis.” These are the witty last words of Hollywood legend Humphrey Bogart. The founder member of the hard drinking, heavy smoking rat pack, he was diagnosed with cancer of the oesophagus in 1954 but did little about it until it was too late. On his deathbed in January 1957, he bid his wife, Lauren Bacall, and children goodbye and uttered this immortal line before dying just a few seconds after. He was 57. John Barrymore: "Die? I should say not, dear fellow. No Barrymore would allow such a conventional thing to happen to him." Those were the last words of John Barry- more, the American actor of stage, screen and radio who bridged the silent and sound era. He came from a theatrical dynasty and was the paternal grandfather of actress Drew Barrymore. A heavy smoker and drinker, in 1942 Barrymore collapsed while appearing on Rudy Vallee's radio show and died later the same day. According to Errol Flynn's memoirs, film director Raoul Walsh "borrowed" Barrymore's body before burial, and left it propped in a chair for a drunken Flynn to discover when he returned home fromThe Cock and Bull Bar, but many dispute this. Winston Churchill: "I’m bored with it all.” The last words from the mouth of statesman and great orator, Winston Churchill, before slipping in to a coma. He died 9 days later aged 90. Thought of as one of the greatest wartime leaders of the 20th century, Churchill's speeches are often credited with mobilizing the embattled British to “never give up” and to eventually win the Second World War. But aged 90, after a lifetime of tremendous achievement and unstinting service to his country, he finally surrendered. George Harrison: Born February 25, 1943, English Musician, Singer, Songwriter, Actor, Producer, Lead Guitarist Beatles. George Harrison passed away on November 29, 2001. His final words were recorded by his wife, Olivia Harrison, as very simply, “love one another.” Despite the treatments and operations, Harrison died at a Hollywood Hills mansion. The cause of death was listed on his Los Angeles County death certificate as “metastatic non-small cell lung cancer.” He was 58 years old. Mozart, famous composer, “The taste of death is upon my lips. I feel something that is not of this earth.” Charles Darwin , best known for his contributions to evolutionary theory: "I am not the least afraid to die."
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How to Spend the Summer in the Hamptons By Pam Teel
Spending the summer in the Hamptons can be pricey but thanks to sites like Airbnb, visitors to this enchanting region of villages and towns along the East End of Long Island can make their stay as low-key or as extravagant as they like. The rise of short-term rental sites like Airbnb have made week-long and even weekend stays in the Hamptons increas- ingly accessible so you can chose whether to live economically or lavishly for the duration. You can choose from many five star restaurants or dine on lobster rolls by the side of the road. July through Labor Day is the true high season. That’s when the social scene hits its peak, with food festivals, charity benefits, community fairs and special events. September and October are lovely times to visit, too. The weather is usu- ally still nice and there is still a lot of things to do and you won’t have to deal with the crowds. From the city, the simplest way to get to the Hamptons is to drive. It’s a two-to-three-hour trip fromMidtown Manhattan
to East Hampton Village, depending on traffic, and shorter or longer if your destination is Southampton or Montauk, respectively. Be prepared for summer traffic. Many locals also travel to the Hamptons by bus, via the ever-popular Hampton Jitney, the nicer Hampton Luxury Liner, or a similar line, all of which make stops in central areas of the main hamlets and villages. Another good option is the Long Island Rail Road. Local trains can take three hours to reach Montauk from Penn Station, but there’s also an express train to the Hamptons on summer Friday afternoons departing around 4:06p.m.. Imagine how quickly that fills up. Plan on getting there early for a seat. Adventurers with cash to spare can hop on a seaplane or a helicopter from Manhattan. Luxury helicopter rides can cost up to $800.00 one way so opt for a more private less thrills helicopter service. You can always call for an uber to meet you when you embark. The Viking Fleet of cross-sound ferries travels between Montauk and New London, CT., Block Island, and Martha’s Vineyard (a summer add-on only). Also, Ameri- can, Southwest and Frontier airlines fly into MacArthur Airport in Islip, which lies about an hour west. The best way to summer in the Hamptons is to rent a house, cottage, or condo for one month, two months, or the entire summer — that is, Memorial Day through Labor Day. Out East is a great place to start searching, with thousands of summer rentals available. While inventory on the East End is substantial, many experienced summer visitors start locking up places as early as February. August through Labor Day is the most expensive time to book. It’s rare to find even a small cottage for less than $7,000 a month and prices for the most luxurious homes run well into six figures. If you don’t have that kind of dough to drop, check out airbnb for a good deal on a place. For a more affordable visit, consider the North Fork of Long Island, which is wonderfully scenic. While it doesn’t have the sweeping Atlantic beaches of the Hamptons, the North Fork’s rural setting, top-quality wineries, and calm bay beaches make it extremely attractive, and historic towns like Greenport offer plenty of restaurants and activities to keep visitors occupied. The Hamptons is limited in terms of hotel options. Montauk remains the best place to find rooms, with options at a variety of price points. Sag Harbor features the American Hotel, a 180-year-old Main Street fixture with a 30,000-bottle wine cellar, and Baron’s Cove, a waterfront hotel with a lively bar and restaurant, is just a short walk from town. Shelter Island has Sunset Beach, a Euro-style bayside hotel and outdoor bar and restaurant founded by Andres Balasz. Bridgehampton boasts the Topping Rose House, where the rooms run over $1,000 a night in the high season. There’s a Jean-Georges restaurant and cozy bar on-site. You could also pitch a tent at Montauk’s Hither Hills State Park for just $35 a day (reserve early), or East Hampton’s Cedar Point State Park. Summer in the Hamptons is all about sun, sand, and surf. The Hamptons has miles of world-class ocean beaches that offer amenities like snack bars and food trucks or all the solitude you like. Many of the best are totally public, too — you don’t need a club membership or permit. Mecox Beach in Bridgehampton - Unless you have a local permit, many of the best beaches have hefty daily rates (think $50 to $90) for parking, as well as small lots that fill up quickly. Walk, bike or take a car share to the beach to save money. Southampton and East Hampton’s respective villages have the biggest collection of boutiques and pop-up shops, but Sag Harbor and Bridgehampton have some unique stores, too, and just as many terrific restaurants. Amagansett’s claims to fame include the Stephen Talkhouse, a no-frills live music venue that features notable acts. The spas at Baker House and Naturopathica in East Hampton, and Gurney’s in Montauk, are great places to unwind. The once-sleepy fishing village of Montauk continues to enjoy a reputation as a hipster destination. It has the best surfing waves and hot nightspots like the Surf Lodge, Duryea’s Lobster Deck, Navy Beach, and the Crow’s Nest. Kids love the putt-putt course in town, and hitting John’s Drive-In for a burger and delicious homemade ice cream. Just a few miles way sits Montauk Lighthouse, which was commissioned by George Washington in 1792. The on-site café sometimes hosts live music in high season. Drive by the hedge-rowed mansions along Further Lane and Ocean Road, or visit the many farm stands bursting with local produce, baked goods, and prepared food. If it’s a more activity you’re looking for, you can book a private surfing lesson, or rent bikes, kayaks, paddleboards, motorboats and sailboats at numerous Hampton’s locations. At the marinas on the either side of Lake Montauk you can also board a deep-sea fishing trip, book a whale-watching cruise, or rent a jet ski. Windsurfers and kite surfers like to take their gear to Napeague Bay. Water skiers often head for Sag Harbor Cove or nearby Long Beach. There are public golf courses in Sag Harbor and at Montauk Downs, as well as a par 3 track at Poxabogue Golf Center in Bridgehampton, where there’s also an on-site driving range. Kids especially enjoy the South Fork Natural History Museum and Nature Center in Bridgehampton, and the Long Island Aquarium in Riverhead, which houses sharks, seals and other water-loving critters. Don’t leave the Hamptons without stopping at one of its many farm stands where you can find fresh fruits, vegetables, and home baked goods. The Parrish Art Museum in Water Mill has the area’s best collection of art and exhibits. Guild Hall in East Hampton is a close second and offers a terrific lineup of en- tertainment. So does the Bay Street Theater in Sag Harbor. The Southampton Arts Center has a robust calendar of events, and the Pollock-Krasner House offers limited tours of the home studios where the great husband-and-wife artists Jackson Pollock and Lee Krasner worked. (Above info from outeast.com) Don’t forget to take advantage of the Hamptons in September and October when things are still hopping and the crowds have thinned out! For more info check out: https://www.tripadvisor.com/Attractions-g659483-Activities-Hamptons_Long_Island_New_York.html
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Platelet Rich Plasma Therapy also referred to as PRP Therapy, is a progressive non-surgical treatment to treat a variety of conditions including arthritis, ten- don injuries, and ligament injuries. PRP is part of a group of state-of-the-art treatments collectively referred to as Regenerative Medicine. PRP treats an injured area naturally using your body’s own growth factors to accelerate healing. It has been shown to be safe and effec- tive for numerous joint and soft tissue injuries. It has been extensively researched in numerous medical journals and publications all over the world. Some of the many uses of Platelet Rich Plasma include osteoarthritis (degenera- tive arthritis) of the spine, knee, shoulder, hip, hands, and feet, as well as menis- cus tears, plantar fasciitis, and rotator cuff tears. The procedure is simple and is performed in the office. The PRP process begins when a small amount of the patient’s blood is removed from the arm and placed into a special container. The blood is then placed into a device called a centri- fuge which spins the blood to help the separate the portion of the blood which becomes concentrated with platelets, thereby giving the procedure its name. These platelets are important because they release growth factors to recruit stem cells and to assist in healing an injured area naturally. Once the PRP is isolated, it is injected to the injured area under the guidance of an ultrasound machine to help accelerate healing and reduce pain.
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Young Children Need Special Back-to-School Attention
A s the vacation season winds down and parents are getting their children ready to go back-to-school, their thoughts turn from swimming and campfires to backpacks and books. Gone will be the warm summer nights and kicked back schedules to the rigors and structure of the classroom. For young children especially, this can be a tough time, but parents can do a lot to make their transition easier. For the past 25 years, Kristen Waterfield has worked with young chil- dren. First as an elementary school teacher, then as the head of a private pre-school, and most importantly as a mother. As president and CEO of the Malvern School, one of the most successful, nationally-recognized private pre- schools in the nation, she knows a thing or two about the emotional needs of children. “Over the years I’ve talked to many parents who have asked me just what they should do to help their children cope when they send them back- to- school. Of course, much depends on the child’s social adjustment in general, but for very young ones, it is important to anticipate their fears, and work systematically to alleviate them,” said Waterfield. “Since our students range from infants to six-years of age, we have a lot of experience with what works and what doesn’t as far as helping them transition from camp to the classroom. Young-
a few weeks before the school year starts.” Diane Morgan, who is the director of operations for all of the 23 Malvern Schools in Pennsylvania and New Jersey, also believes that preparation and planning are essential. “One of the reasons that we see very few issues with our students when they start the new school year is because our teachers work with parents to help them before school begins,” she said. “There are some very specific tips I would give parents in general for the back-to-school transition. The Malvern School operates year-round, so starting in August is often an ex- cellent step to get children back in routines if that opportunity is available. Some oth- er tips include: re-establish good habits at least a few weeks before school. This can mean setting up a regular time to go to bed and wake up, and even eating meals during the same times that the child would eat them in school. I would also get them involved in a variety of activities in themorning, so they will get accustomed to attending early classes, and organize their school supplies in a designated spot in their room that they can see. It is also important tomake the child feel they can handle the separation from their parents in a mature way, even though they are still young. During the school year our students practice writing their names, tying their shoe laces, writing down their addresses, and other simple actions that make them feel independent and secure. Parents can also practice this at home before school starts. This will help them feel less dependent on their parents once they leave home and head to school,” Morgan added. “I always tell our parents to do the little things that show how much they care,” said Waterfield. “I always put photos of me and their dad in my kids’ lunchboxes, or write little personal notes and hide them in the pockets of their pants or jackets. I make sure I pack some of their favorite healthy snacks as well.”
er children are generally more emotionally immature and may have difficulty separating from their parents, so with such a long break over the summer, it is even more important to address those potential anxiety issues before they become a problem,” she added. Waterfield recommends that parents begin a plan before the summer ends for their children’s return to the classroom. “What I tell our parents is to start by creating a checklist with all of the things they should do before the school year begins. Things like talking about how much fun school is, how they will get to see their friends soon, and generally being positive about the entire school experience. It is important to begin doing this planning at least
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Millstone Township Hits a Milestone By Pam Teel Millstone Township will soon be celebrating its 175th Birthday. The town was incor- porated in February 1844 and consists of 37.36 miles of rolling countryside, although some early settlers took up residence in the area as far back as the early 1600’s. Rich in history, Millstone Township is located in the southwestern portion of Monmouth County. Named after the Millstone River by early settlers, the town was first home to the Lenape Indians who called the area Mattawang. It’s interesting to note that seven waterways originate within the town with many lakes and private ponds dotting the landscape. What makes our town different from many other towns is the dedication of our town historians and the volunteers who care about preserving the past and who look forward to sharing their stories and their love for the history of our town and the sur- rounding area to a whole new generation. Recently, I met with three of our town’s historians, past and present, at the Thomas Baird Homestead on Baird Road, a Greek revival homestead, circa 1830. These three women have passed the title of township historian to each other for the past thirty years. Together, with the help of the members of the Friends of Millstone Township Historic Registered Properties and the Historic Preservation Committee, they strive to protect our history and keep it alive for the community. The restoration of the Thomas Baird Homestead is one of their accomplishments. It is now an Educational facility and a Museum to be enjoyed by all Millstone residents. The Friends of Millstone Township, with the help of the governing body of Millstone, will be burying a time capsule at the grand opening of the new “Millstone Park” on Red Valley Road in the spring of 2020. The capsule will have its own marker on it and will see the light of day again 75 years from now in the year 2094. The Friends are asking for Millstone residents to help them fill the 30 gallon stainless steel drum barrel, which was donated by township resident William Guttridge Jr. It’s extremely import- ant that the Millstonians of today get involved and send messages to the people of the future. We can’t imagine what 75 years from now will bring. From September 23rd to December 31st, you can drop off letters to be included in the time capsule at the Municipal building or you can mail your letters to Millstone Township Municipal Building, 470 Stagecoach Road. Just mark it “Time Capsule.” Questions can be sent to Doreen Polhemus, town Historian at: save-history@opton-
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line.net. You can also visit the Friends of Millstone Township Historic Properties booth on Millstone day, Sunday, September 22nd, on the Frogbridge grounds from 12-5, where they will be handing out special 100 percent cotton paper to be used for the time capsule. Letters should be written in pencil not ink or markers. You can print it as long as the paper packages states acid free. Resume paper is the best. Letters can be about your family, your experience living and growing up in Millstone, your genealogy in this town, pictures, business cards, etc. (This would be a great writing assignment for the middle schoolers and those in high school.) Township Historian Doreen Polhemus’s dedication to this town’s history is admirable. She has been highly involved with all historical projects that the Friends take on. Her husband Raymond was born and raised in Millstone and his family dates back in this area to the early 1600’s. Jean E. Mount‘s family also has a lot of history in the area. Jean spent a great deal of time researching and gathering information about the early inhabitants of Millstone Township. In 1982, she published a book calledThe History of Millstone. It’s a great informative book about Millstone’s past residents and buildings that once stood here in town and those still remaining. It includes pictures, maps, and descriptions of the different areas of the town. There is a copy in the Allentown Library and the Millstone Municipal building has a copy if you would like to stop by and thumb through it. According to Jean Mount, "It took us about 6 years to complete our work regarding the "The History of Millstone Township". Although I did most of the actual writing (text), I was fortunate to have the help of many people during the research phase. My motivation for the process was a love of history, a sincere sense of "place" and a reverence for the people who lived in this area before I became a resident of Millstone, and of course, personal curiosity." Ms. Mount is considering reprinting her book. She was wondering how many people in town would have an interest in purchasing the book. If you are interested in obtain- ing “The History of Millstone” for yourself or your family, please email Doreen Polhemus at: email@example.com. It’s well worth it. I have one and have learned a lot of history about our town from it. Your input will help Ms. Mount decide if she will go ahead with the 2nd reprint. Joann Kelty, our past town historian, worked at Showplace farm in 1979 and grew to love the area. In 1995 she fell in love with an old house on Conover Road. The home, circa 1785, was first built by the David Cook family. Captain David Cook served in the Revolutionary War. Later it was known as the Conover home. The home still includes the original section dating back to both families. Joann is an avid researcher and was hands on in helping to restore the Thomas Baird Homestead among other restoration projects. A special thank you to these ladies who have made such a difference in preserving Millstone’s past so that future generations can keep it alive. Their time and sacrifice have not gone unnoticed. Also, a special thank you to Pat Butch, President of the Friends of Millstone Historic Registered Properties, for all of her knowledge and hard work with grant writing and for making good things happens! Her dedication to this town is beyond words. The Friends of Millstone will also be hosting a farm to table Dinner at the Thomas Baird House on September 21st. Dinner will be prepared by award winning Chef Michael from Harvest Moon in New Brunswick, NJ, and served in the historic 1800’s red barn, rain or shine. This three-course dinner will include wine and an assortment of desserts. ($60.00 per person.) To make reservations please contact Melissa Peerboom at 732-446-4249, ext 1103. Don’t forget to visit The Friends of Millstone Township booth on Millstone Day. Pick up your writing paper or write a letter there and drop it in the time capsule. If you love history, especially learning the history of the town that you live in, why don’t you think about joining the Friends of Millstone? You can be a part of the future by helping to preserve its past. College students are encouraged to come join in with the Friends. Volunteers are always needed for their fundraising events. Also, Girl Scouts and Eagle Scouts looking to do a project, feel free to email: www.savinghistorywithfriends.org. Or firstname.lastname@example.org.
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COULD YOU BE LIABLE FOR POSTING FALSE INTERNET REVIEWS? By John Bazzurro In an era where the Internet has become a source that we turn to for information, guidance and advice, it is important to know your potential liability for posting information in chat rooms, websites and reviews. In the “olden days” (15 years ago and more), we turned to friends, neighbors, family members and the Yellow Pages when seeking referrals for anything from contractors and landscapers to doctors and lawyers. Now, we often rely upon Internet websites and reviews for such guidance. Can we and should we rely on such reviews? What if the reviews are false? What if the reviews are planted by a competitor? As the law catches up to technology, it appears that an individual may have liability for posting false reviews. Legal causes of action of defamation and slander compels the awarding of damages against an individual who makes a false statement about another which causes monetary or other damages. Such false statements must be communicated to a third party in order to be actionable. When such false statements are in written form (or posted on the Internet), the specific cause of action is called libel. If an individual engages in a protracted effort to take down or destroy a business by disseminating such false and defamatory statements, such an individual may also be responsible under a theory of tortious interference with prospective economic advantage. All of these causes of action could include the awarding of punitive damages to the extent that intent can be shown. Significantly, when individuals intentionally post negative or false reviews on the Internet, they typically do not provide their actual names and identities and often open an “account” under a false name solely for purposes of disseminating false and libelous information in order to hurt a business. Recently, however, there has been a flurry of cases decided in numerous states which allow businesses or individuals damaged by false and libelous reviews to obtain the actual identity of the anonymous poster from companies such as Google, Yelp, and Yahoo. In this regard, when one opens an account on one of these websites solely for the purposes of posting “anonymous” false and libelous reviews, it is possible for Google, Yelp, and Yahoo to trace the true identities of these individuals through their “electronic fingerprints” which include the Internet provider addresses and device identification. Once these identities are obtained, lawyers are bringing suit against these individuals for purposes of recovering damages on behalf of their client resulting from these false postings. Accordingly, while a review process is often helpful for purposes of advising a businesswhat they are doing right andwhat they are doingwrong, one must refrain from posting false information and false reviews about a business which, in turn, could cause monetary damages. As indicated above, even if one attempted to set forth anonymous false postings, the law now favors the release of the true identity of these anonymous individuals for the purpose of holding them accountable for their actions. Should you have any questions concerning the above article or any other areas of the law, please do not hesitate to contact our office for a consultation.. JOHN T. BAZZURRO, Esq. CERTIFIED BY THE SUPREME COURT OF NEW JERSEY AS A CIVIL TRIAL ATTORNEY LAW OFFICES OF JOHN T. BAZZURRO, LLC 200 Meco Drive, Millstone Township, New Jersey 08535 Phone (732) 410-5350 Fax (732) 810-0006
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